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With Nneamaka Onochie

Put Up a Good Fight

Three weeks ago I went to the salon to braid my hair I was gisting with the hairdresser when a woman entered, you know those type of women that enter a place with tremendous energy and positive vibes. She is a middle-aged woman, tall and beautiful with honey complexion. She started by narrating how she felt good in her body due to rigorous exercise activities according to her she said she had rheumatism and due to the training sessions she had been having, she couldn’t feel pain again. Then she goes on to tell us that she was an athlete in her younger days, she represented Rivers State in gymnastics just before she settled down in marriage.

According to her, her husband promised her to continue with her career after marriage then they got married and the Oga told her to forget about athletics, or rather she can do it inside his house. She said she would have gone far in that career path and her tone depicted sadness and regret. I looked at her and while she was lost in her own thoughts and I wondered why she didn’t push, why she didn’t fight for that which she wanted, why she threw it all under the bus. Well, don’t get me wrong, the man is the head of the family and should be respected as such but I guess there should be ways around things like making him see reasons why something is so important to you and maybe talking to a trusted close family to plead your course. I felt the dream didn’t matter to her so much or she wouldn’t give up.

I have a friend who happens to be a businesswoman though a nurse by profession. She has chains of businesses and is successful. The day she told me that she studied nursing and midwifery in the university and also practiced for some years in one of a prestigious teaching hospital in Porthacourt I was astonished. Then I asked why she didn’t continue with the career path she replied that after she got married, her husband told her to stop and take care of the kids which were beyond every reasonable doubt very understandable. Then when she stopped waning the kids he would open a business for her than have her under someone. She said “Amaka I would have been a matron in the hospital” I caught that underlying tone of sadness and loss. Yes, she has a business and is really prospering but she wished she hadn’t given up.

I think as a woman before you finally settle down with your prince charming, you should sit down and have a heart to heart discussions on your likes, dislikes, values, dreams, and aspirations and draw a conclusion whereby you are on the same page with each other accepting your differences and passion. Courtship should be a time to lay all the cards on the table and trash out every issue. So you know what you are entering. What do couples really discuss during courtship huh? Courtship isn’t about going on serial dates and having numerous sex. It’s time to discuss your values so you won’t be trapped into doing otherwise like giving up on your dreams.

For the men, please don’t kill that woman’s dreams, don’t marry a businesswoman and turn her into a full-time housewife, if you want a housewife as a helpmate, there are women who doesn’t want to do anything other than sitting at home and flip channels all day, you can find those and marry. Don’t marry a woman whose career is popping and shut the doors to her dreams by forcing her into business unless she can comfortably manage both otherwise support her in her chosen profession. Don’t marry someone’s daughter and subject her to doom because of your ego thereby rendering useless the money her parents spent in sending her to school. Support her in every way possible and she will reciprocate and show you gratitude for the rest of her life.

To the woman who wants more, it’s okay to want more, it’s okay to dream and work towards that dream, it’s okay to be an entrepreneur with a series of businesses. It’s okay to tour on the career path that brings you satisfaction. Life is too short to live in regret and sadness. Take that audacious step today, you can do it. Don’t give up on that business or career and your future self will thank you for it. Put up a good fight, fight for your business or your career don’t just give up.

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#EndSars: Unfreeze Accounts of Protesters-Court



The Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) has been ordered by a Federal High Court in Abuja to unfreeze the accounts of 20 #EndSARS protesters who were alleged to be the influencers of the 2020 #EndSARS cum Anti-Police brutality and End bad governance Protests.

Ahmed Mohammed, Judge of the High Court on Wednesday, issued the order, unfreezing the accounts after the legal teams of both the CBN and the 20 defendants decided to end the case.

The 20 #EndSARS protesters targeted by the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) after the 2020 anti-police brutality demonstrations were still being deprived access to their bank accounts despite the expiration of the court’s freezing order of November 4, 2020.

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The CBN had on November 4, 2020 obtained an ex parte order of the Federal High Court in Abuja freezing the protesters’ accounts for 90 days. By this calculation, the freezing order expired on February 2.

One of the affected protesters, Bolatito Oduala, popularly known as Rinu, confirmed in a twitter  message on Saturday that the restriction placed on her accounts and those of her colleagues had not been lifted.

Femi Falana, a Senior Advocate of Nigeria (SAN), who is also their lawyer confirmed this.

Mr Falana said with the expiration of the order, his legal team “will file a motion to set the order aside.”

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Buhari seeks Senate confirmation of new Service Chiefs



After persistent clamour by Nigerians, Buhari appointed new service chiefs to take over from the ex-service chiefs to be able to bring in their security expertise towards combating terrorism, especially in the North-East part of the nation.

This was done, without getting the constitutional endorsement of the National Assembly. However, human rights lawyers including Femi Falana had said the President lacked powers to appoint the new generals without the constitutional endorsement of the National Assembly.

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On Tuesday, the Senate received a request from the President, Major General Muhammadu Buhari (retd.), for the confirmation of the newly appointed service chiefs.

“The appointees for confirmation are: Maj. Gen. Lucky Eluonye Onyenuchea lrabor – Chief of Defence Staff; Maj. Gen. Ibrahim Attahiru – Chief of Army Staff; Rear Admiral Awwal Zubairu Gambo – Chief of Naval Staff; and Air Vice Marshal Isiaka O. Amao – Chief of Air staff.

“They are to replace the former Chief of Defence Staff, General Abayomi Olonisakin; Chief of Army Staff, Lt-Gen. Tukur Buratai; Chief of Naval Staff, Vice Admiral Ibok Ekwe Ibas; and Chief of Air Staff, Air Marshal Sadique Abubakar.”

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The request which was contained in a letter dated 27th January, 2021, was read by the Senate President, Ahmad Lawan, during plenary on Tuesday.

According to a statement by Lawan’s aide, Ezrel Tabiowo, the letter from the President, read in parts, “In compliance with the provisions of Section 18 (1) of the Armed Forces Act. Cap A20 Laws the Federation of Nigeria 2004, I hereby forward for confirmation by the Senate, the appointment of the under listed officer as the Chief of Defence Staff and Services Chiefs of the Armed forces of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

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Herdsmen attacks: Seyi Makinde seems to be paralysed by fear, says sports minister



Following the various alleged attacks in various parts of the states in Nigeria wherein Oyo state is experiencing the same heat, Mr  Sunday Dare,  Minister of Youth and Sports Development, has advised Seyi Makinde the Governor of Oyo State, to be more proactive and decisive in tackling the security situation in the state.

In a statement on Monday, Dare implied that the governor is too scared to take a decision that would protect the indigenes of his state from attacks.

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There had been reports of alleged attacks, that some Fulani were kidnapping, killing, and raping residents in Ibarapa area of the state

Sunday Dare urged the governor to seek assistance from states and non-state actors and stop “responding out of fear that his political status is being damaged”.

Part of the statement termed, ‘Minister wants Makinde to be more decisive on security’, read, “For several months, citizens of Oyo state have watched with increasing concern as the security situation in our beloved state degenerated. Troubling accounts about killings, kidnappings, and herdsmen versus farmers conflicts abound.

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Like all the people of Oyo State, I expected the Governor of Oyo State, Seyi Makinde to act fast and prudently but with reasonable dispatch to quell the security situation before it got out of hand.

We all waited for proactive steps and responses from the state authority, but certainly in vain.

“Governor Makinde seems to be paralysed by fear regarding this important security situation. This is the first serious test of his leadership in the state.

“Instead of tackling it, he has retreated. His policy has not been proactive enough to resolve the issues so that the protection of lives will be guaranteed and our people spared the mourning over dead ones.

Instead, his policy has been to act as if nothing was happening in forlorn hope that all would simply go away as if it were a bad dream.”

“The worsening developments in the state in the area of security are a direct result of a temporizing fiddling leader.

The Governor has paid more lip service to the issue of security instead of offering solutions or taking proactive steps to stem the attacks and chart the path of resolution.

For this is a complex issue that requires political courage and vision to resolve.”

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