Beauty they say is skin deep, but living in a world and age of beauty craziness proves otherwise, now I grew up watching magazines that portray most likely the perfect woman. Most of these women in the magazine looked slender. They had olive smooth skin with no blemishes. They had a long neck, defined jawline, high cheekbone, and tiny waist with large hips. Their arched eyebrows were perfectly drawn and their straight hair shimmered. These women simply looked exotic, yes they were flawless or so I thought.
“Amaka stop looking at those women who don’t actually look like what they seem to look like in the magazine” would be my mother’s voice of reasoning, “they are probably perfectly edited” she would conclude. We are all flawed though in a beautiful way. Women face the perfect storm both in the society and workplace, to look nice and always be in good form. Most beauty companies make a lot of money convincing us of the need to look beautiful and act a certain way in order to be accepted. Well, don’t listen to them. You don’t have to polish away your imperfection to be validated. Perfection is a mirage and non-existent.
Most times has long been a measure of societal value. It is also a tool to be used and manipulated so we feel adequate when we look at ourselves with tummy roll, fat arm, love handle, etc but when you understand that you are your own beautiful and own it, you will be glad you did. I believe a beautiful woman has a distinctive personality, one who is especially kind and caring to others. She is a woman who can inexplicably make you feel good by being around her. So relax! take a deep breath, you are doing just fine.
I once had a knock-kneed friend and this friend of mine always bought the shortest of skirts, what you will micro mini and she wore them mindless of her knees and she rocked them well, she always said to me, I won’t kill myself because I have a knock knee and I really admired her for that. What we fail to realize is that there is beauty in imperfection, celebrate your flaws, actually, there is nothing wrong in improving your appearance or your looks but do not think that your beauty as a person is contingent upon you looking like a Kim Kardashian or Beyonce.
Tearing down yourself because of your flaws will get you nowhere but low self-esteem. Winnie Harlow born with vitiligo was once seen as someone that does not meet the standards of beauty, now she is gracing the covers of magazine being a model. Most times we often stand in the mirror, looking at that stretch marks, birthmarks, acne, pimples, and blemishes and get frustrated forgetting that, the victoria secret runway model we saw in the magazine is also flawed. We are our own worst critics, we are the ones who have the voice in our head tearing us down, sometimes that voice is fueled by bullying and negativity in our lives. You have flaws, so does the world, it can only take self-confidence and self-love to accept our flaws and rock them.